6 Cuckold Conversations To Have With Your Partner
Some people can be a little nervous or embarrassed to have the cuckold conversation with their partner - even if they have been together for many years or even decades.
After all, it's not really a vanilla lifestyle and if your partner hasn't really been exposed to kink, it can be like dropping a hot cup of coffee on their lap.
This is one of the most requested topics I get all the time I want to cover as much as possible without droning on.
This blog post will discuss:
- Types of cuckold conversations to have with your partner
- A list of important topics all couples in the hotwife lifestyle should have together
- How to maximize fun in your cuckold relationship
1. Decide Where You Want To Go
One of the most important cuckold conversations to have with your partner is to discuss how far to take the whole hotwifing thing.
Do you want to go all the way and have sex? Or will it be more like flirting and making out with strangers?
If you do have sex, will you be using condoms or going bareback? Will there be any cuckold cleanup duties?
It's important to discuss how far you both are willing to go in this hotwife relationship. That way there are no surprises for either partner.
Playing fast and loose can result in lost communication and hurt feelings.
Trust me, you don't want to end up in that scenario...
2. How Many Partners To Have In The Relationship
Another important cuckold conversation to have with your partner is to discuss how many partners (i.e. bulls) you will have.
Are you looking for a regular bull who you can meet every weekend (or perhaps more than that)? This would be someone you are looking for a serious long-term bull-hotwife relationship with.
Or are you looking for something a little more casual like a one night stand or date night with someone once every few weeks?
Or are you looking to bring on a few guys into a regular rotation to have a little variety?
Which variant is the best?
Well, it really depends.
If you only have one regular bull, you (and your cuckold) can develop a deeper relationship with him.
On the other end of the spectrum, a lot of partners can be fun too as it can create new experiences and everyone has a different sex game.
All are perfectly fine, but the strategy needs to suit your hotwife relationship. That's why it's important to discuss this together.
3. Be Honest With Your Partner
When it comes to the world of cuckolding and hotwifing, being honest with your partner is very important.
The lifestyle is very intense and there can be a lot of emotions involved. As a result, it's super important to be honest and frank with your partner.
If something is bothering you, don't let it simmer...
Also, of the things where it's very important to be honest with is your fetishes.
Share with your partner your deepest kinks and fantasies. Life is way too short to not to live them out.
No matter if it's a foot fetish, toilet fetish, or something between those extremes, share them with your partner.
4. Share Your Cuckold/Hotwife Fantasies
Similar to your fetishes, share your fantasies with your partner as well.
Do you want to do a one night stand at the bar or on vacation?
Or maybe you want her to fuck one of your friends?
Do you want to make your hubby watch you fuck BBC and then clean up the mess?
Being honest with your fantasies is important for making each other happy in this relationship.
5. Discuss Roleplaying
Before you actually go out there and get into the cuckold lifestyle, roleplay a little first. This is important in helping both couples ease into the lifestyle (especially important if this is new to both of you).
Think of it like foreplay or a warm up.
You wouldn't just jump into a 10 mile race without stretching a little, right?
Well, it's the same idea here!
Do a little cuckold/hotwife roleplaying to get used to it.
Is it as hot as you expected?
Or did the "spark" kind of fizzle out when fantasy became a reality (you would be shocked about how often that occurs).
Another important way to ease your partner into the idea of cuckolding is to talk about watching porn or reading erotica.
This is a great idea to get someone introduce to the lifestyle.
There are a lot of great hotwife couples on Twitter and OF. So follow some of them around for a few weeks, subscribe to their profiles and see if it's truly something you are interested in as a couple.
Reading erotica is also a great idea because a book (or eBook) will describe the emotional aspect of the intensity of cuckolding that video/audio cannot.
6. Discuss Aftercare In Your Relationship
Finally, the last thing you absolutely need to discuss with your pis aftercare.
Aftercare is a very important part of the cuckold/hotwife experience.
Every couple is different so the type of aftercare needs to be tailed to your needs/wants.
For example, for some couples, reclaiming is enough.
For others, it involves a date night, cuddling, or watching a movie together.
Aftercare is super important for the emotional health of your hotwife relationship, so don't neglect it!
Final Thoughts
Overall, having the cuckold conversation with your partner can be a little nerve-racking even if you have been together for a while.
Hopefully this list will give you plenty of topics to discuss what you both want out of this new kinky lifestyle.
As always, please leave any comments/suggestions if you have other advice for newbie couples out there!
Every time I read something about cuckolding, I see a lot written about ‘bulls’, which is a shame because I’m really not interested in sharing my Lady with another man.
I feel that it should be made clear that lesbian cuckolding is also a great option, especially if your relationship has any Femdom elements to it.
Would love to see a blog post on that topic!
It is good to talk about expectations and possibilities but talk if often different than reality. If you are a man who has a partner that wants to make you a cuckold then you likely have two choices, become a willing or an un-willing cuckold. Do some role playing and allow yourself to imagine what it is like to become a cuck who licks up cum and sucks cock for his wife. Imagine her having regular bulls and one night stands. Think how it will feel to lick another man’s cum of her pussy. Let your imagination run wild. If any of these thoughts are too much for you to handle then you may want to consider that once she fucks another man it has a life of it’s own. Not saying that all cuckold relationships evolve in this way but they do evolve and we often have no choice. The bulls will also have an impact on how cuckolding progresses. When you have sex with other men a relationship can develop.
These are all great topics to discuss prior to entering into a hotwife/cuckold relationship. I think many couples jump in with both feet thinking that just having the fantasy is enough, then once it happens, the reality sets in. Then it’s too late. The hotwife has experienced high intensity sex and is hooked.
My wife has been a hotwife and me a cuckold for over 5 years. We attribute our success to addressing pretty much everything in this blog. My wife has two regular bulls with which she plays bare and I clean up. She also enjoys a stranger(s) when we are out of town or on vacation where she plays safe. .y role is always to watch. I am caged pretty much permanently and am allowed a ruined orgasm on my birthday and our anniversary. Other than that I am released only for cleaning and a prostate milking. This arrangement works for us and we are both very content with our respective roles.