10 Gentle Femdom Ideas: Naughty Tasks For Your Partner

When you think about femdom you don't necessarily think about Gentle Femdom.

In fact, the first thing that may come to your mind is probably something like CBT, pain, hardcore BDSM, or something of that sort.

If you search femdom topics on Reddit or Tumblr or porn sites, those are probably the results you will find. And to be honest, you'll find a lot of hardcore femdom ideas like that on this blog too.

Sure, femdom includes that, but it can also be "gentle" and sensual as well.

It also includes teasing, denial, and much more.

Femdom doesn't always have to be "mean".

In fact, it can be "gentle" in many regards.

This blog post will cover:

  • What is gentle femdom
  • How to incorporate gentle femdom in your relationship
  • Fun femdom slave tasks and ideas to try with your partner

What Is Gentle Femdom?

So...what is gentle femdom?

Gentle femdom is a subset of the femdom kink which focuses more on sensual domination.

Instead of harsh punishments or pain, gentle femdom includes things like sensual body worship, light humiliation, teasing and denial, etc.

The reason why gentle femdom is so great is because you don't have to be super experienced (either as the domme or sub) in order to have fun!

It's a great way to dip your toes in the femdom world before going onto some more serious kinks like cuckolding or CBT.

So...you're probably wondering how to incorporate gentle femdom in your relationship.

Well, the good news is I created a list of 10 fun "Gentle Femdom Tasks" that you can try with your partner.

These are super beginner friendly tasks and a great guide to start experiencing the wonderful world of femdom :)

10 Gentle Femdom Tasks For Beginners

1. Foot worship with a collar

If you are completely new to female domination (femdom), then foot worship is great fetish to explore.

Foot worship is a very sensual form of domination that doesn't involve pain or anything like that.

And it can be very erotic for both partners if you do it the right way. After all, getting your toes sucked is a great way to engage in foreplay!

So here's what you are going to do:

Have your husband/boyfriend wear a slave collar. Dressing him up the right way will really get him into the submissive mindset.

Foot Slave Collar

Then, order him onto his knees and guide him to worship your feet.

Sensually command him in a sultry voice.

Let him know how you want him to smell your sock.

Let him know how you want him to kiss your soles and suck your toes. Then, command him to lick your soles.

Every part of a woman's body deserves to be worshipped. So why not her feet?

This is a great gentle femdom task for beginners to dip their toes in the water with.

2. Lock him in chastity...then put him to work!

One of the great things about femdom in your relationship is the power exchange and the desire to please your partner by any means necessary.

That's why this next gentle femdom idea involves chastity.

Lock your partner in chastity and wear the key around your neck (slide it into your necklace).

Then, inform him that you won't let him out unless he licks you to 2 orgasms tonight. Sensual domination combined with body worship is simply incredible!

Watch as he'll lick and suck desperately on your sweet pussy lips. Chastity really makes a man eat pussy better.

And the stakes are high because you may leave him in the cage if his work is not satisfactory.

Talk about a "gentle punishment", right?

3. Dress like a sissy

Another fun gentle femdom task is to transform your sub/slave into a sissy.

Incorporating feminization in your female led relationship (FLR) is a great way to experience light humiliation.

Dressing him up like a sissy takes away his masculinity, which is definitely something fun to explore.

It's like locking him up in chastity, but a lot better!

So...what can you do to turn him into a sissy?

Well for step one you definitely want to put him into some panties. That's right, make him put on a pair of pink thongs or something similar.

Imagine him wearing a pair of hot pink panties while working in the office on some random Tuesday...

But if you want to really go further, you can make him wear a French Maid uniform.

French Maid Sissy Set

4. Spit in his mouth

This next gentle femdom task is all about light humiliation.

Spitting is something underrated in many relationships in my opinion.

Done the right way, it can be super sensual (yes, even more than a French Kiss).

Basically you are going to spit in your partner's mouth (or face). Have him kneel down before you and tilt his head up.

Then lean in close so he can smell your breath. Then lick your lips and slowly let your spit roll down into his mouth as he consumes it.

Worshiping your partner's spit is incredibly erotic!

And you can even go a little more "hardcore" by actually spitting (instead of letting it roll off your lips). It's still very sensual in my opinion :)

5. Give him JOI (jerk off instructions)

As I mentioned before, sometimes femdom can be gentle and sensual.

And this task will definitely be on the gentle side.

You are going to give your partner jerk off instructions (JOI).

Basically give your partner instructions to stroke his dick. Tell him how fast, how slow, how hard to go, etc.

And if you want you can spit on his dick for lube!

The rule is simple: he must obey you and stroke when you give the command and stop when you tell him.

Completely taking control of his manhood like that is super erotic. And the most important rule of this gentle femdom JOI game is that he MUST only cum when you give the command.

10 Gentle Femdom Ideas Naughty Tasks For Your Partner

6. Gentle femdom roleplaying

Another super fun and kinky gentle femdom idea is to bring roleplay into your wife led marriage.

What kind of roleplaying?

Well, I find the best kind is when it involves power exchange from people in positions of power (i.e. an "abuse of power"

For example, things like:

  • Teacher and student in detention
  • Boss wanting to fire a worker unless he obeys
  • Officer and prison inmate
  • ...well you get the idea

Roleplaying like this is a great "soft femdom" approach.

7. Soft bondage

One way to experience submission is to tie up your partner. Now, bondage can sometimes be considered a more hardcore femdom thing.

But I'm not talking about hogtieing your partner or suspending them from the air or anything like that.

Just simply tying up their hands or even using handcuffs is enough.

For example, a simple thing to do is have your partner sit on a chair. Then, gently tie his hands behind the chair and then tease his cock.

Edge him, tease him, and then deny him.

When he's all tied up and completely at your mercy is when things are the most fun!

8. Take away one of his senses

During sex one way to really spice things up is to take away one of your partner's senses.

For example, you can blindfold him before having your way with him.

Or you can put ear cancelling headphones on him. This way he can't hear what you are doing. and will have to rely on touch much more intensely.

In fact, when you take away one sense, the others become so much more heightened.

And it's a really fun soft femdom idea to change things up if you're getting bored in the bedroom.

9. Talk dirty to him

Dirty talk and foreplay isn't something people do as much as anymore. But it's a really gentle way of introducing femdom into your relationship.

For example, you can do playful teasing or even some light humiliation

There are a lot of ways to talk dirty to your partner:

  • You can talk about how small his penis is
  • You can talk about how you're going to make him submit to you today
  • Or you can call him pet nicknames like slaveboy, footboy, or just bitch!

10. Introduce him to anal play

The final gentle femdom task on this list is introducing your partner to anal play.

Now, anal play doesn't have to be fucking your partner with a big strapon and stretching his hole like no tomorrow. Save hardcore femdom pegging for another day!

If you use a smaller vibrator or dildo, then the experience can be very very sensual.

Introduce him to the pleasures of anal play by stimulating his prostate and milking him that way.

Trust me, once he experiences a prostate orgasm there's no way he can go back to the things were before!

Gentle Femdom Tasks - Final Thoughts

As you can see, gentle femdom and dominating your partner is more of an art than anything else.

Hopefully this guide will help ease your entrance into the femdom world.

Power exchange with your partner is truly something amazing to experience.

So...which idea from this list did you like the most? Think I missed a good idea? Comment below and let me know!

Also, if you have any great gentle femdom stories with your partner, feel free to share them below as well :)

Stay kinky!

2 comments

  • I love your ideas I would love to meet a mistress that would want to take total control put me in chastity keep the key and move in with me

    Blake
  • Having come to FLR only recently my Mistress and i believe our relationship currently could be described mostly as gentle Femdom. However, W/we look at this as a journey, and restricting O/our activities to only these 10 aspects of play would be unrealistic. We look forward to more extreme aspects of the lifestyle as our relationship develops, while never losing the underlying concept of gentle Femdom. Safe, sane and consentual.

    johnny

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